The Break-Up Letter

Toxic Relationship: Any relationship that is unfavourable to you or other.

In one way or another, each of us has been in a toxic relationship. Don’t side -eye me yet until you hear what I mean by that statement…

A toxic relationship does not always involve people, you can be in a toxic relationship with insecurity, anger, unforgiveness, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, pain, shame, guilt, loneliness, sin and many more things things that stops us from experiencing God in His fullness.

I can testify that I spent a lot of my life in a relationship with sin, insecurity, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, self harm, anger, unforgiveness and pride, to name a few and those things not only brought me pain and told me that God didn’t love me or even care about me and I used to believe them. I believed them to the point that I was ready to die and take my life because I was tired of the pain and I felt unworthy. I spent years allowing these things to takes over my life and use and abuse me.

And now I am DONE !!!

I think…. Actually I know that it’s time that both you and I break up with things that have held us captive for way too long, kept us in the wilderness, things that have left us for dead.

I’m taking the first step and telling my toxic partners, depression and friends, that it’s over. It’s kept me way too long in its trap making me feel unloved, unwanted, unworty, undeserving, wanting to kill myself and telling me God didn’t love me when in fact He did. It’s time I told it that I met a Saviour (oh yes I did), a Man who loves unconditionally, fights and wins for me, never leaves me, heals me, protects me, has given me a new life and new identity and makes me feel worth more than anything in this world. It’s about time that we remonded these things who OUR FATHER IS. Enough is Enough and we’ve had it. It’s Time.

I don’t know about you but I’m writing a long over due letter to all these things and I’m letting them know that if they thought they still had a place in my life, well it’s eviction day. No notice! No warning! It’s time to get out. Join me in writing this letter and personalized and wben you’re done, tear it up and throw it away or burn it.

Here’s how mine goes:

Dear Depression And Friends (insert your own toxic “partner”)

It’s over. It’s not you, it’s me.

I have found someone else. Someone better. Someone who died for me, forgave me and saved me. Someone who pulled me out of the mirry clay and cleaned me up. Someone who fights my battles and wins them. Someone who loves me unconditionally, eternally and without fault. Someone who protects me, never leaves me, walks before me, is my friend, father and brother. Someone who gives me peace that passes all understanding and wipes all my tears. He is indecribable, omnipotent and omnipresent.

His name is Jesus. Emmanuel. Jehova Jireh, Jehovah Rafah, Jehova Elshadai. King of Kings. Prince of Peace.

It’s Not You, It’s Me.



“Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature, the old things have passed away, behold new things have come.”





One thought on “The Break-Up Letter

  1. Dear Self doubt, anger and friends

    You listen to me and listen to me carefully. Right now I command you to pack your bags and leave, you DO NOT belong here. You have held me captive for very long but today is due day… GET OUT! !

    Daughter of The King

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